Lessons I've learned

Yesterday marked 5 years since my ex-hubs walked out of our marriage....5 years of being divorced and single...time flies (when you're having fun!) Here's some things I've learned from my divorce:

*Ladies, if you think your husband might be having an affair, he is. Plain and simple. Trust your instincts. God gave them to us for a reason. Don't be afraid to listen to your gut like I was.

*Don't think your friends will rat out your cheating spouse. They won't. No one wants to be the one to tell you and break your heart.

*Let yourself feel the pain of the loss of your marriage. Cry. (but don't cry as long as I did.)

*Know when to let go. Know when it's worth fighting to stay. (Use those instincts again.)

*Don't be nasty during the divorce - especially if you have kids. You are a part of each other's history and lives. Find a way to keep it simple and be civil to each other.

*Learn who your true friends are (not the ones who just want the latest dish so they can gossip)...rely on your true friends to help you through the tough spots.

*Oh, and definitely you need a good dog! Jax was a life saver! :-)

*I had a hard time with being ashamed of the fact that I was divorced. Don't be ashamed.

*Don't worry about what anyone thinks - your true friends and family love you no matter what!

*Don't immediately start dating. Find yourself, your happiness and your independence first.

*Have a "fun fling" before you look for a serious relationship.

*Even though you hate hearing it - that life will get better and you will be happy again. It is true. When you finally let go of the marriage and life that really wasn't happy in the first place, you will find yourself laughing again, reconnecting with old friends, making new friends, and genuinely enjoying life like you are supposed to! I PROMISE!